A question of technique

[Indigo Violent]

Normally I'd ask for advice in one of the forums where they know me better, but I thought I'd get better info here, for some reason.
My boy really likes to be spanked. I mean, really likes it. A couple of minutes of good hard thwacks to the ass turns him to a pile of quivering jelly ready to lick my feet and beg for more.
I'm happy to oblige, usually. The only problem is that keeping it up for too long makes my hand really hurt. I tried using a ruler a couple of times but it didn't really feel the same. Any advice on how to deliver a stinging spanking without my hand going completely numb?

[Cuteswan]

My first thought is a cutting board with a handle, but make sure it's light enough to not cause damage to him or your wrist (repetitive stress injuries and all that). I'm sure some shops have appropriate paddles with padded rubber grips, which may be worth the investment.

With your hands, see if less force and/or different motions for each blow get the job done.

[Kingofthemorlocks]

Get behind him and give his ass a taste of the back of your hand. Switch hands from time to time.

I practically cum from having my girl do that to me.

[Honor]

Be careful with the back of your hand, though... depending on how you're built, you can do some real and lasting damage to the meta-carpals that way.

If he really likes it all that much, it's probably worth investing in some proper toys for the job... In a flogger, you're looking for lots of dense, soft strands... Suede & soft leather (like doe or elk) are preferred, and latex/rubber strands are quite popular, too. Paddles should be broad and flat, out of rubber or leather.

Paddles are generally better for shorter duration sessions with a higher immediate intensity while floggers are designed more for sessions that will sttart off slow and go for temn, twenty, fourty minutes... Or longer.

There are some nice ones at babes in toyland, but I'm sure there are an assload (no pun intended) of sites that have more due to specialization. If you want to keep it in the family, CJ used to sell sex toys. I'mnot sure if she still does, but it'd be worth asking.

If you end up wanting advice on technique, I'd be happy to discuss that, as well. Several of the pets I've owned over the years like to be spanked and flogged, so I've gotten pretty decent at it.

[Jackalope]

If he really likes being slapped, he probably will prefer a toy that has a lot of sting rather than one that has thud (floggers tend to have thud). Riding crops and canes have sting in varying degrees. The bigger the flap on the end of the crop, the more noise it makes and the less actual damage you'll cause. I say this because if what he really wants is for you to wind up and take a good hard swing, then a simple leather strap like one of these may be the answer:

Split Devil's-hand Paddle
The Strap
Handy Slapper

That last one is laughably easy to make yourself. The stiffness of the leather (latigo is rein leather) is what makes it work. Softer leather will make it more like a flogger. You want belt leather, at least.

Stormy Leather has a slightly different take on the same idea:
Schoolmarm Slapper
Stormy Slapper

Crops have a flexible shaft and take a little more control, but are less likely to leave bruises. This one from Stormy Leather is especially cute:
Hand Crop

I've got one similar to this (in fact, it may be the same one, since George bought it at Stormy...)
Riding Prop
My original came from a tack shop, but alas it snapped in half during a stage show...

Crop with a larger end (and shorter shaft):
Classic Crop

Crops with heavier shafts:
Calfskin Handle 16"
Junior Bat
Jumping Bat

And lastly, a very lightweight wooden paddle:
The Medium Stinger

Mr.S and Stormy Leather are both local shops here in San Francisco, which is why I'm using them for references. I know they sell top-quality goods and own at least a couple toys from both stores (and actually, a whole lot of stuff from Stormy Leather, since they specialize in women's fetish clothing).

[Honor]

Ooohhhh... I forgot all about Stormy. They have some -beautiful- stuff.

And all the info on crops and stinging instruments is a very good call I neglected as well... Figuring if he was so into her hand, a fairly stiff leather paddle would be more his style. I can forgive myself the oversight on the excuse that I'm never on the recieving end of this stuff, but I do have one excellent crop and I should have thought of mentioning it.

Good call, Jackalope. I just keep liking you more and more and more.

[Warskull]

The power would come from the snap of the wrist. It is somewhat tricky to explain over the internet, however you can do a fairly powerful twisting motion using muscles from a good deal of your arm. Useful for backhands, spankings, and various other techniques. You would want your hand parallel (maybe even twisted so the thumb is slightly angled down) to the ground for most of the blow with your thumb facing the target. As you connect with your blow you twist the striking surface to meet your target.

For this you would want all four of your fingers tightly together with your thumb pulled right next to your hand in a line. Now bend your thumb just a bit and pull it back as you tilt your four fingers back. This makes the palm nice and tight and an idea stiking surface.

As for the numbness, as you should get used to striking with your hands and the striking surfaces should grow stronger with time. If you have a punching bag you could practice on it.

However my experience isn't from spanking but from using the hands/feet as general striking weapons.

[Kingofthemorlocks]

Paddles are right out for us. One of Christine's ex-boyfriends was a little overly-enthusiastic when it came to paddling her, so her policy is now "bare hand, or not at all."

[Squidflakes]

Its not an ass, but when I'm smacking my drum for hours on end, I find that cupping my hand slightly really saves me from red, sore, aching palms the next day. Will probably work well for spankings.

[Cuteswan]

Its not an ass, but when I'm smacking my drum for hours on end, I find that cupping my hand slightly really saves me from red, sore, aching palms the next day. Will probably work well for spankings.

Sadly, it actually took me several seconds to realize you meant an actual drum.

[RantinAn]

Im amazed not one of you has suggested the rubber handled plastic hairbrush. Shore you can spend 50 bucks on a good leather paddle and it will be divine. but your standard haribrush (smooth backed for prefrence) will deliver almost as much fun and games without the cost. If you get a rubber gripped one and dont hold it to tightly, you'll be able to deliver a series of entertaining blows while there is enough flexibiliy to avoid both hand and ass injury.
For getting the most smack with the least hurt, a professional quality ping pong paddle can do wonders, but of course you have to be bloody careful to strike square with it, the edge can be excruciating.
I realy like using aquarum tubing or a similar soft, lengthy, plastic tube. whippy, gagin, hard to inflict real damage with, and can be used for other games too.

The following goes for any change from bare handed to a toy, be it improvised or offical:
Be carefull not to hit at full power at first. hitting at full power, even wiht the "safe" toys can casue a hell of a lot more damage than hittign with your hand alone. Make certain that if you dont already have a safeword, you establish one. pounding a subbie is more fun when they squeeal "no", and "stop hurting me mistress", than if they are sitting ther taking it, and a safeword allows this sort of fun to happen.
and finaly dont be afraid to experiment n have fun. and thisis probably the perfect place for asking this sort of question, so good on you for doign so.

[Indigo Violent]

pounding a subbie is more fun when they squeeal "no", and "stop hurting me mistress", than if they are sitting ther taking it

*takes enthusiastic notes* This is good stuff... Thanks, everybody! *runs off to practise on the boy*

[Jackalope]

Ah, other cheapie toy we've got here at home:
Paint stirring stick from the hardware store. It's about 24" long, 1" wide, 1/4" thick, has a convenient handle carved into one end. Like a shortened yardstick with a handle. And the edges are smooth. If you want to be fancy, wrap it in leather or padded velvet and wrap the handle section with the stuff they use for tennis racket handles or touring bike handlebars.

But I mentioned the latigo strap because you can make it yourself instead of paying big bucks for it.

I didn't bother to mention the hairbrush because she already said she didn't like the feel of the yardstick...though that could be the grip.

[Indigo Violent]

Update on the spanking situation!
I tried cupping my hand more and it worked as far as not injuring myself went (the boy didn't complain either). Only really noticeable side effect was that it was a lot louder, but as far as I'm concerned that's a good thing.

[Squidflakes]

Update on the spanking situation!
I tried cupping my hand more and it worked as far as not injuring myself went (the boy didn't complain either). Only really noticeable side effect was that it was a lot louder, but as far as I'm concerned that's a good thing.

That's the other reason I do it when playing the drum

[Moo Cow]

Hehe, fun! Keep enjoying!

~Sara

[Swordsman3003]

There are many things I have yet to undestand.....@_@????

[Indigo Violent]

There are many things I have yet to undestand.

Bend over and it will all become clear.

[Happypeepeehead]

Update on the spanking situation!
I tried cupping my hand more and it worked as far as not injuring myself went (the boy didn't complain either). Only really noticeable side effect was that it was a lot louder, but as far as I'm concerned that's a good thing.

Excellent. Sensations are so much more than just what you make his nerves feel, there's also the pyschological aspect. Making the sound vary and making your bottom/sub assume they've been hit harder due to the sound adds to it all the more. If you ever play with toys, you can also elicit, with enough time and association, delightfully delicious shivers from just swinging it. Hey, maybe where some clothing where there's a significant swishing?