Beating your Meat - Explained

Moo Cow · Post by **Moo Cow** » Sun Oct 30, 2005 1:26 pm

Yah... i"m on paxil.

Wellbutrin, eh? My mom switched from that to Paxil when she had SSRI poopout (basically when you've been taking an SSRI for a looong time).... maybe i should talk to my doc about that.

Though i honestly don't know if i could stand increased libido.. i'm already aroused waaay too much just with no release.

~Sara

Tellner · Post by **Tellner** » Sun Oct 30, 2005 2:01 pm

Moo Cow wrote:Yah... i"m on paxil.

Wellbutrin, eh? My mom switched from that to Paxil when she had SSRI poopout (basically when you've been taking an SSRI for a looong time).... maybe i should talk to my doc about that.

Though i honestly don't know if i could stand increased libido.. i'm already aroused waaay too much just with no release.

There are other non-SSRI anti-depressants out there. Wellbutrin is the only one I've had any experience with. Women have told me that it made orgasm easier.

Moo Cow · Post by **Moo Cow** » Sun Oct 30, 2005 2:06 pm

Thanks, i'll look into that.

~Sara

Mel Wong · Post by **Mel Wong** » Sun Oct 30, 2005 6:47 pm

Moo Cow wrote:Mel,i actually appreciate that level of detail.... i need all the advice i can get so i would like to try new things.

I'm also on antidepressants.. i'm wondering if that has something to do with my difficulty in orgasm?

Jackalope, that really sucks... getting broken when tryingto get off can't be fun. i really hope that your ribs get their act together!

~Sara

Okay. Antidepressants can fuck with your sex life hugely. For example, my orgasm response time used to be, oh, about zero to WOOHOO in five minutes.

Now I'm lucky to get off in HALF AN HOUR thanks to the psych meds I'm on. It sure beats being insane enough to think cutting my hand off is appropriate atonement, or setting myself on fire is a good suicide technique, but it does suck taking so long to come.

Advice: ALWAYS USE LUBE. When you take longer in wanking, it does get very hot and chafey down below. You do not want to chafe your vulva. The raw spots stick to your panties and coagulate to them afterwards, making undressing a painful process of careful peeling. Trust me, ok?

Next: If you find your arousal response stagnating - that is, getting somewhere and then stalling, try stopping all stimulation and letting your nerves get back to a less overwrought state. This is very helpful if you're using a vibrator, as the vibes can sometimes numb you. Take a little time with just manual stimulation, and then try the vibe again, and it can give you that little push you need for the next level.

Lastly: Don't be afraid to take your time. It's probably problematic in a dorm situation, but when you do have private time, try exploring your body. Try things you've never tried before. I didn't know deep cervical pressure got me off until I tried, and now it's my standard technique.

Different bodies respond in oddly different ways due to nervous system and neurological variations - you might find that the bog-standard "diddle clit with finger" doesn't work for you because you're too sensitive and tune all sensation out except for a painful grind, or simply because it's not enough.

Do try things out. All sorts of things. Like, playing with ice cubes or gentle heat (not too much, ok? See vulval chafing comment above, replace with mental image of blisters).

I once put a very little toothpaste on my clit. It was... uh, distracting. I can see how a gentler tingle would be fun, but I was stupid enough to use the superminty brand I was using for my teeth.

Cue immediate dash to shower. Embarrassing. Mortifying. Great to tell other people now I'm not so sore about it.

- Mel

Moo Cow · Post by **Moo Cow** » Sun Oct 30, 2005 7:39 pm

Mel -

THANK YOU!!!! This is exactly what i mean. Words of wisdom.... thank you.

All of this seems to apply except the lube... hooboy when aroused i make a lot of juices. Very quickly too. Once i masturbated for like... an hour... and there was only a bit of soreness but not from chafing.

The stalling thing... i think it's just i work so hard and get frustrated so that makes the horny go byebye. Which sucks majorly.

Thing is, my clit is so sensitive i'm afraid to be to hard on it. But i think that may be what i have to do to get off...

I like your idea of grinding on things... that may just work. It feels hella lot better than clit stimulation anyway.

Peppermint toothpaste... wow... I've actually used ice and it felt really good but then it melted.LIke, the whole cube melted. Hahaha.

I still stand by the i want to buy a dildo or vibrator and see what happens.

Sorry if that's too much info, peoples... but it's nice to beg for help and get responses!

~Sara

Starwind · Post by **Starwind** » Sun Oct 30, 2005 8:21 pm

Ya know I don't think there really is TMI on this forum. ^_^

Moo Cow · Post by **Moo Cow** » Sun Oct 30, 2005 9:35 pm

True. *snuggles appreciatively*

Oh! I forgotto snuggle Mel! *snuggles her as wel*

~Sara

CottonStar · Post by **CottonStar** » Sun Oct 30, 2005 10:05 pm

Starwind wrote:Ya know I don't think there really is TMI on this forum. ^_^

I do.

But, you know, that's just me. I'm crazy like that.

Moo Cow · Post by **Moo Cow** » Sun Oct 30, 2005 10:15 pm

Yah, you're in the minority, hon. But we must always respect the minority! *hugs*

Sorry forthe corruption...

~Sara

HentaiCat · Post by **HentaiCat** » Sun Oct 30, 2005 10:46 pm

Ya know I don't think there really is TMI on this forum. ^_^

Moo Cow · Post by **Moo Cow** » Sun Oct 30, 2005 10:47 pm

Wow, that's a lot of spilt seed!

~Sara

HentaiCat · Post by **HentaiCat** » Sun Oct 30, 2005 10:57 pm

Wow, that's a lot of spilt seed!

~Sara

If what they say is true and a man completely

Moo Cow · Post by **Moo Cow** » Sun Oct 30, 2005 11:02 pm

Hee hee...

good job.

~Sara

Lowky · Post by **Lowky** » Sun Oct 30, 2005 11:20 pm

Mel Wong wrote: I once put a very little toothpaste on my clit. It was... uh, distracting. I can see how a gentler tingle would be fun, but I was stupid enough to use the superminty brand I was using for my teeth.

Cue immediate dash to shower. Embarrassing. Mortifying. Great to tell other people now I'm not so sore about it.

- Mel

Reminds me of when i worked as a cook in the dorms while attending Michigan State. I was working on settiing up a nachos bar, which included handling sliced Jalepenos. When I got my break I headed to the bathroom, and didn't htink to wash my hands before using the urinal. I know they heard me out in the cafeteria proper, not sure if I was heard screaming elsewhere in the dorm or not.

Moo Cow · Post by **Moo Cow** » Sun Oct 30, 2005 11:25 pm

ouchu!!!

~Sara

Tellner · Post by **Tellner** » Sun Oct 30, 2005 11:38 pm

Lowky wrote:Reminds me of when i worked as a cook in the dorms while attending Michigan State. I was working on settiing up a nachos bar, which included handling sliced Jalepenos. When I got my break I headed to the bathroom, and didn't htink to wash my hands before using the urinal. I know they heard me out in the cafeteria proper, not sure if I was heard screaming elsewhere in the dorm or not.

YEOW! That's almost as bad as what happened to one of our students. She carried her pepper spray in the pocket of her jeans. One day, when it had shifted around she sat down just wrong

Quick naked dash to the shower through a co-ed dorm.

HentaiCat · Post by **HentaiCat** » Sun Oct 30, 2005 11:45 pm

Reminds me of when i worked as a cook in the dorms while attending Michigan State. I was working on settiing up a nachos bar, which included handling sliced Jalepenos. When I got my break I headed to the bathroom, and didn't htink to wash my hands before using the urinal. I know they heard me out in the cafeteria proper, not sure if I was heard screaming elsewhere in the dorm or not.

Ouch, Being a man and all I had no idea it was THAT sensitive...

YEOW! That's almost as bad as what happened to one of our students. She carried her pepper spray in the pocket of her jeans. One day, when it had shifted around she sat down just wrong

Quick naked dash to the shower through a co-ed dorm.

Ok, now

RavenxDrake · Post by **RavenxDrake** » Mon Oct 31, 2005 2:35 am

Hentai cat: Let your girlfriend(or reasonable Facimile) get ahold of of some Franks Insanity Hotsauce about ten minutes before an impromptu session...

Belive me. You'll know, the Neighbors will know, The next state over will know...

Also, working security at the dorms in college, you have no idea how many self inflicted Pepper Spray incidents had to deal with from paranoid Freshmen mace-defacing themselves in a panic cause they though they saw someone. Fortunatley, I've never been on the recieving end of pepperspray/mace...

Lulujayne · Post by **Lulujayne** » Mon Oct 31, 2005 4:48 am

The closest I've come to that kind of disaster is getting a little (well ok, a hellava lot) too liberal with the "Prickly heat powder" (or equivalent) a kind of baby-powder which you apply all over after a shower (duh) but which has added menthol-like nastiness to ease any heated "foriegner-in-the-tropics," type sweatiness which might arise during a steamy hot day in South East Asia.

Prickly Heat Powder is the greatest thing to come out of the now defunct behemoth that was The British Colonial Empire (and yes, I know, perhaps they only good thing.)

Anyways, I did my best cat on a hot tin roof impersonation after getting way too excessive with that one morning. It burned it burned! Oh Lordy how the pain cruelly swung between burning hot and burning cold!

I truely believe that my skin was too terrified to even squeeze out a nano-drop of sweat for the next entire week. And I don't know if my pink bits have forgiven me even now - I know for a fact that even today my right nipple will only talk to me by passing messages via the left one.

(But my nipples have always been a bit stuck up. cha cha cha

)

Rand Al'tor · Post by **Rand Al'tor** » Mon Oct 31, 2005 5:01 am

Hmm, lessee, techniques I've got two variations I switch between, both with right hand.

palm down rubbing the head and the top of the shaft. Not circumsized so I mainly rub the foreskin over the head. Mostly it's a rubrubrubrub, pause, rubrubrub, until I feel it is 'time' and keep it up till the finish.

Palm up, more around the base of the shaft, basically the 'standard'wanking. Takes more time but tends to be more pleasurable.

Don't use lube for it though. Heard that people who used lube end up getting so used to it that they need it to get off, and don't feel like becoming too depndant on it.