Furthermore, I personally don't think either your "stern father society" or your "nurturing mother society" are good systems. Most of the people in society are adults, not children, and they should act like it. They should not need society, the government, etc. to be "parents" to them. It is true that people fall down on their luck, and we should help them. It is true that there can be extenuating circumstances that would lead to people needing extra help, and we should help them. But we cannot "mother" them all their lives, nor should they want us to. The "mothering" leads to dependency, which leads to control, which leads to servitude.
I've got to agree with Toawa on this point, as "purist" libertarian at base as his theme is.
EITHER a "stern father" or "nurturing mother" type attitude from govenrment is bullshit, and dangerous to its citizens, to boot. I don't care whether it's "Papa knows best" or "Because Mama doesn't want you to get hurt", it's still governmental interference in freedom of choice, and that is antithetical to the principals this country is supposed to be founded upon and supposedly holds dear...the principals every Congressman, Senator, Judge, Military serviceman, or POTUS takes an oath to uphold.
The "stern father" characterization given, though, is closer to what the basic ideals of the Constitution supports, as is shown by reading the transcripts of the debates that went on during the framing of it (available through the Library of Congress)...the ideal of "no hand up, but no thumb pressing down shall be offered by the government" is clear to anyone who actually paid attention to middle school level discussions as to why we declared independance top begin with, and what the intentions of our founding fathers were.
This country is based on the ideal of a meritocracy...if you're good enough, and try hard enough, and work hard enough (or have enough luck), you'll make it, if you don't you won't, and good riddance. Granted, this is a false-to-fact ideology framed by what amounted to middle class/upper middle class/upper class members of a misogynistic agrarian society at the time when anyone who wanted to could claim land for nothing, and become a full citizen by dint of the sweat off his own back (so long as he was male, and survived to 21 years of age), and this situation held for the first 150 years of our existence as a country, pretty much, then suddenly our ease of upwards mobility changed as the industrial revolution came along, and solidified in an entirely new matrix, but the basic ideal still works, as is proven by the thousands of people who immigrate every year (legally or illegally), work their asses off in ways we "normal" Americans would feel demeaning or "too much work" for incomes we feel are "below us", and end up, eventually, living exactly what the American Dream promises...a better life than that they left, with freedoms wider than they thought possible, brought about by their own efforts on their own behalf.
The people complaining are those who take those freedoms for granted, who feel that this society wes them something, instead of them owing themselves. I saw Max get jumped all over because another member can't find a job...how many jobs have you skipped over as "beneath you" or "doesn't pay enough"? I must ask...me, I'd join the migrant croppers before I'd take welfare, and whenh I wasn't making enough off roofing, or my military pay, when I was younger, took second jobs that I could work around my "main job's" scheduel, like waiting tables, security guard, taxi driver, and, for one period, "slasher" in a slaughterhouse, or I worked day pay jobs like bucking hay in season. As a result of this work ethic, instead of 5 years (2000 hours as a laborer, and 8000 as a full apprentice), I finished the qualifications to test for my journey liscense as a PIPE member in three years WHILE attending DeVry...simply because I HAD to work as much as I could in order to make the money to cover rent, food, car payments, and school, and I couldn't be picky about HOW I made ends meet.
Fortunately, I am the son of a self made man, and SAW the poverty his folks lived in until his father died, then his mother lived in until he was doing well enough to support her AND us, and picked up lessons in how he made it from him, and from my more successful grandad, who ran away from home at 14, along with his older brother, during the depression, so there would be enough food...the older brother was accepted into the military, grandad wasn't, and ended up working jobs men wouldn't take during the depression, and often barely surviving, until he COULD join up himself...both dad and grandad impacted my beliefs and work ethic alot, and my attitude towards taking charity...authors like Heinlein and Piper just cemented it down a bit better for me, and meeting plenty of "poor kids who done good" and "F.O.B. as a kid, illegally" guys in the car business who were making a decent living simply made it all the more convincing to me, because I heard OTHER firsthand accounts about how possible it really is.
Now I'm not saying I agree with Max's take on his original post, but I AM saying that we need neither nurturing mommy government nor stern father government in this country, but we ALSO need less interference either way...less "corporate welfare", less, and more strictly controlled, personal welfare, fewer "hand out" programs, and more "hand up" programs that require the beneficiary to participate actively and put in REAL effort to recieve any benefit, and THEN require that they repay the system above and beyond that expected of those who never directly benefitted from it, so on, and so forth.