Sensuality and the Tao

Rico Underwood · Post by **Rico Underwood** » Mon Feb 11, 2002 8:59 am

Welcome to my world. o.o
Friends are more important than getting laid anyway.

Simplicity · Post by **Simplicity** » Mon Feb 11, 2002 9:34 am

<BLOCKQUOTE>quote:<HR>Originally posted by Rico Underwood:
Welcome to my world. o.o
Friends are more important than getting laid anyway. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>Ahh the red carpet. Thank you! The feeling of finally enjoying friendship for what it is, rather than for what it stands for in the general romantic community, is a remarkable thing to be celebrated over wine and cheeze.A toast to you and to your post!

Simplicity · Post by **Simplicity** » Mon Feb 11, 2002 9:41 am

Hiya everyone!Yeah I'm newbie so what!Anyway, I just wanted to ask if anyone has had the strange phenomenon of suddenly losing all interest in the pursuit of finding a life partner.When I was younger I've always cringed at the aspect of "just friends" but now I relish the fact that I'm actually single and I understand how much "just friends" means! Just think about! Interesting Individuals with free will *like you enough to hang around* and its a major plus that they are also attractive! They think enough of you to want to be your friend!Okay I'll stop there. Bring on the comments!Newbie Doobie Dew!~Simplicity

Rcawley8 · Post by **Rcawley8** » Mon Feb 11, 2002 10:53 am

Well I've been too busy to find a life mate right now. College has been too demanding.

Ironpaw · Post by **Ironpaw** » Mon Feb 11, 2002 10:57 am

Yes. Never had any interest in finding a life partner. Now I have more than I can handle. Heh. Go figure.

Simplicity · Post by **Simplicity** » Tue Feb 12, 2002 1:02 am

<BLOCKQUOTE>quote:<HR>Originally posted by Ironpaw:
To be honest, I find few friends within the opposite sex. Not to be said that I don't get along, it's just... Life is too short for pretense and superficiality. That and the fact that I don't have enough in common (interest wise) with the opposite sex to facilitate forcing the issue. I have the most wonderful and close friends! I have no real interest in expanding that circle. I just want to concentrate on keeping the ones I have. Even if I have to nuke the city of Chicago or even shackle their hands and feet with cast iron cuffs and chain them away forever in a dark, musty, underground dungeon away from the slithering mob of choir wenches straining to get their hands on him. Yes. You know who you are.I'm sorry... I've digressed...<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>Do you find that you make time for friends or that time makes friends for you? Yeah I know...enough of the cheese but really? Is a friend someone that plans time around their busy lives for you or is a friend someone who just is and the day flows around a relationship that just happened.What if we were all friends?

Iceberg11 · Post by **Iceberg11** » Tue Feb 12, 2002 1:10 am

see i don't belive in either i don't belive in love so the life mate thing is out...*chuck out the window*...and i don't have freinds ....really more just aquaintenses(or at least i think that is how its spelled.)....i have hever met a human that i have actualy trusted enough to call a freind...so nope not looking probably never will...=^_^=(ok i dont know why im putting the kitty face in this one but i've done it in every other post so why not.)

Gloria · Post by **Gloria** » Tue Feb 12, 2002 1:30 am

Heh, well, like Ironpaw, I've never had any interest in finding a mate, in fact, up until about a year ago I had every interest in NOT finding one. However, I differ from Ironpaw in that, I always tended to get along better with guys. I mean, it's the common interest thing, I guess. It's just a lot easier to find guys who share my interests than it is to find girls. However, like Ironpaw... just when I was LEAST interested in it, bam. God goes and tosses this new element into the mix, and suddenly "I'm the author of sappy love songs, trading in my bachelorhood" (to quote Five Iron Frenzy.) *shrugs* I've been saying that just NOT looking is the best policy. Be content where you are and don't worry abotu what the future may hold. "Who by worrying can add one year to his life?" Anyway...

TwoDifferentSox · Post by **TwoDifferentSox** » Tue Feb 12, 2002 1:32 am

I do have the interest in finding a life partner, but not in the sense of simply "getting laid".
I'm surely overly romantic in my imaginations of it, but what I dream of is someone that I can give up into, and that gives up into me, someone to share closeness and intimacy with. Someone to trust without a doubt.
And I'm not sure if you mean that is now contradicting to have friends?
Having a life partner doesn't exclude having friends I think.On the other hand I'm quite aware the image I'm making up sadly is not that realistic to be found by me, after all it's not like suddenly my perfect mate will fall out of the sky, and I'm not able to put much effort into finding the one myself (I like to call myself "social challenged").Anyway, that are my 2

Simplicity · Post by **Simplicity** » Tue Feb 12, 2002 1:42 am

<BLOCKQUOTE>quote:<HR>Originally posted by Gloria:
Heh, well, like Ironpaw, I've never had any interest in finding a mate, in fact, up until about a year ago I had every interest in NOT finding one. However, I differ from Ironpaw in that, I always tended to get along better with guys. I mean, it's the common interest thing, I guess. It's just a lot easier to find guys who share my interests than it is to find girls. However, like Ironpaw... just when I was LEAST interested in it, bam. God goes and tosses this new element into the mix, and suddenly "I'm the author of sappy love songs, trading in my bachelorhood" (to quote Five Iron Frenzy.) *shrugs* I've been saying that just NOT looking is the best policy. Be content where you are and don't worry abotu what the future may hold. "Who by worrying can add one year to his life?" Anyway... <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>Yeah, God has this remarkable way of taking a situation that you think you have learned from and you think that everything is going to be hunky dorey for now on that you know exactly where your feelings are, your goals are, your dreams are...GOD: Hello there mista "I know everything about my life but never saw this coming! You thought you had it alllll figured out didn't ya? Well guess what?"I figure that if I just stay in the "I know that I'm not a know it all but I like this ride so can I stay on" my emotions will stable out and maybe this will be what life has in store for me.Wearing my doubts of forever single like a security blanket! I love life though and I'm starting to figure out my relationship with the world.Here's to you and Ironpaw!

Simplicity · Post by **Simplicity** » Tue Feb 12, 2002 1:55 am

<BLOCKQUOTE>quote:<HR>Originally posted by Iceberg11:
see i don't belive in either i don't belive in love so the life mate thing is out...*chuck out the window*...and i don't have freinds ....really more just aquaintenses(or at least i think that is how its spelled.)....i have hever met a human that i have actualy trusted enough to call a freind...so nope not looking probably never will...=^_^=(ok i dont know why im putting the kitty face in this one but i've done it in every other post so why not.) <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>Hee, I just thought of something. How friendships are so much like boyfriend girlfriend relationships anyway. I mean, take the whole friend thing. What happens if someone comes up to you and says "Hi I'm your friend."And you say. "I don't have any friends"And they say. "Well you do now. Hi."Yeesh. This whole free will thing is confusing sometimes. I mean, where do you draw the line between what you want and what they want and who the hell cares what anybody wants? Especially when it comes to people that you relate with during the day?If you demand that your own feelings be heard as an individual "I have no friends!" and you say that anyone who says otherwise is wrong do you violate their right to have individual feelings?This is probably why some people run screaming from the cities and become hermits.

Ironpaw · Post by **Ironpaw** » Tue Feb 12, 2002 2:01 am

<BLOCKQUOTE>quote:<HR>Originally posted by Simplicity:
 This is probably why some people run screaming from the cities and become hermits.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>Dude... I'm THIS *holds up index finger and thumb close together* close to doing that very thing. I'd love to grab my friends and run off into the woods and start some nice, self sufficient commune. We could build a big fortress like thing and be like Redwall! (minus the fur)

ZOMBIE USER 7262 · Post by **ZOMBIE USER 7262** » Tue Feb 12, 2002 4:51 am

<BLOCKQUOTE>quote:<HR>Originally posted by Ironpaw:
 Dude... I'm THIS *holds up index finger and thumb close together* close to doing that very thing. I'd love to grab my friends and run off into the woods and start some nice, self sufficient commune. We could build a big fortress like thing and be like Redwall! (minus the fur)<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>*snicker* Now, if you had someone who could make fursuits, and were willing to wear them...heck, you've got Redwall WITH the fur. Heeeeeee.My $0.02, adjusted for inflation:I've never really been interested in finding someone with which to breed. That being said, I do dream of one day finding someone to spend time with. Friends, if you will. I could handle the Redwall idea suggested by Ironpaw. In fact, that sounds like an idea. (Psst. Ironpaw. Want me to look into purchasing a tract of land out here for ya? <IMG SRC="http://www.keenspace.com/forums/biggrin.gif">)I think it's also relevant that, because I'm an intellectual, I don't exude macho testosterone, I'm not driven by my pants, and I'm actually sensitive, caring, etc., people have outright asked me if I'm gay. <IMG SRC="http://www.keenspace.com/forums/biggrin.gif"> (I'm not...but if that's what it takes to be gay, hoist the rainbow flag and get me some men, 'cause I'll be the biggest flamer in the country... <IMG SRC="http://www.keenspace.com/forums/wink.gif">)

Simplicity · Post by **Simplicity** » Tue Feb 12, 2002 6:04 am

<BLOCKQUOTE>quote:<HR>Originally posted by Ironpaw:
 Dude... I'm THIS *holds up index finger and thumb close together* close to doing that very thing. I'd love to grab my friends and run off into the woods and start some nice, self sufficient commune. We could build a big fortress like thing and be like Redwall! (minus the fur)<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>To the hermits! The giant redwood forests of California call your name! Oh to find that expanse of land that is empty, beautiful and quiet. To your dreams and your desires! I toast you with honey mead. Mmmm mmm...well, I don't have any so I'll toast you with my Baskin and Robbins Mocha Blaaaaaaaaaaaaast!

Simplicity · Post by **Simplicity** » Tue Feb 12, 2002 6:14 am

<BLOCKQUOTE>quote:<HR>Originally posted by Elix:
 *snicker* Now, if you had someone who could make fursuits, and were willing to wear them...heck, you've got Redwall WITH the fur. Heeeeeee.My $0.02, adjusted for inflation:I've never really been interested in finding someone with which to breed. That being said, I do dream of one day finding someone to spend time with. Friends, if you will. I could handle the Redwall idea suggested by Ironpaw. In fact, that sounds like an idea. (Psst. Ironpaw. Want me to look into purchasing a tract of land out here for ya? <IMG SRC="http://www.keenspace.com/forums/biggrin.gif">)I think it's also relevant that, because I'm an intellectual, I don't exude macho testosterone, I'm not driven by my pants, and I'm actually sensitive, caring, etc., people have outright asked me if I'm gay. <IMG SRC="http://www.keenspace.com/forums/biggrin.gif"> (I'm not...but if that's what it takes to be gay, hoist the rainbow flag and get me some men, 'cause I'll be the biggest flamer in the country... <IMG SRC="http://www.keenspace.com/forums/wink.gif">)<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>Elix! Thanks for your post! Sensitive, caring, etc...You know what...if this is what makes up a flamer then we need more of them in this country! The term 'gentleman' seems to have run screaming with the hermits! Engulfed by the media image of the *MAN* ooooo a maaaaan! Look at him he's tough! Actually you know what, other then the typical response that I occasionally see even in my own group of friends....Guy #1: I love you. *HUG*Guy #2: Woah! Okay man but don't hug me alright?The macho man seems to be going out of style! You know what makes firemen so attractive? They are GENTLEMEN. They are strong and sensitive! They care! And I hear some of them make a mean breakfast! Mmmm mmmm!So I don't know, what do you think? Macho man out of style, gentleman back in?

Simplicity · Post by **Simplicity** » Tue Feb 12, 2002 7:24 am

<BLOCKQUOTE>quote:<HR>Originally posted by TwoDifferentSox:
I do have the interest in finding a life partner, but not in the sense of simply "getting laid".
I'm surely overly romantic in my imaginations of it, but what I dream of is someone that I can give up into, and that gives up into me, someone to share closeness and intimacy with. Someone to trust without a doubt.
And I'm not sure if you mean that is now contradicting to have friends?
Having a life partner doesn't exclude having friends I think.On the other hand I'm quite aware the image I'm making up sadly is not that realistic to be found by me, after all it's not like suddenly my perfect mate will fall out of the sky, and I'm not able to put much effort into finding the one myself (I like to call myself "social challenged").Anyway, that are my 2

Simplicity · Post by **Simplicity** » Tue Feb 12, 2002 7:29 am

<BLOCKQUOTE>quote:<HR>Originally posted by Ironpaw:
Yes. Never had any interest in finding a life partner. Now I have more than I can handle. Heh. Go figure.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>Funny how that works huh? I guess when you are focused on your own life instead of "the pursuit of a lifemate" you really are you and therefor its easier for the one who loves you for you, to find you!And you and you and you! Anyway yes, coffee does contribute to hyperactivity in childlike adults. : )

ZOMBIE USER 7262 · Post by **ZOMBIE USER 7262** » Tue Feb 12, 2002 10:48 am

<BLOCKQUOTE>quote:<HR>Originally posted by Simplicity:
Elix! Thanks for your post! Sensitive, caring, etc...You know what...if this is what makes up a flamer then we need more of them in this country!<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>In the interest of fairness and honesty, I should tell you that that's a practiced formula speech for me. The exact adjectives change, but I've said that speech at least fifteen times in different venues to different people. Not in front of a large audience, though. <IMG SRC="http://www.keenspace.com/forums/smile.gif">I'm hoping I didn't offend anyone with the use of "flamer," too. <IMG SRC="http://www.keenspace.com/forums/smile.gif"> <BLOCKQUOTE>quote:<HR>So I don't know, what do you think? Macho man out of style, gentleman back in?<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>Having never been in style, I don't know that I'm qualified to answer. <IMG SRC="http://www.keenspace.com/forums/wink.gif">

TwoDifferentSox · Post by **TwoDifferentSox** » Tue Feb 12, 2002 11:11 am

Nice speech Mr Elix, and I don't think it's wrong when you got some good rethorical phrases handy for every occosiation. <IMG SRC="http://www.keenspace.com/forums/smile.gif">
I got myself a few in my sleeve, am just waiting for the right time to use them. <BLOCKQUOTE>quote:<HR>Originally posted by Simplicity:
So I don't know, what do you think? Macho man out of style, gentleman back in?<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>Think about that, how often when you ask "what are you looking for in a guy?" you get the answer "A macho that's uncareing and as sensitive as a wooden plank."?

Rcawley8 · Post by **Rcawley8** » Tue Feb 12, 2002 11:36 am

Too true, TDS. Eh, I seem to have a lot of friends lately. I do nothing to attract them, other than be who I am. They are great people. I have cultivated friendships as well so not everybody I know falls out of the sky. I take everything as it comes, and deal with it. I have avoided most romantic entanglements, dodged or confronted trouble as it needed to be dodged or confronted. Hmmm... Aside from that what else is there to say? Everything seems to move at its own pace... Even preceptions. Wait awhile and eventually even you will be popular <IMG SRC="http://www.keenspace.com/forums/wink.gif">