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Mvmarcz wrote:I've a bit of a moral dilemma
As I've previously stated my oldest brother is getting divorced.
As far as I know(as in last I asked) My mother and grandmother N. (on mothers side) know, I know, my brothers do not(Why I don't know they're going to be 26 in 17 days they can take the news) but my grandmother M. and grandfather on my fathers side do not.
This is big to me because at a young age my brother was sent to live with our dad who lived with his parents(our grandparents). My dad was a bit of shit to put it lightly and his parents were eventually given custody of my brother so that he could be taken care of. So my grandmother M. basically raised my brother. His wife does NOT like my grandmother M. She prevents them from communicating, but has no problem cashing the birthday and anniversary checks she sends (piss me off much?). So of course I was a bit put off when I found out that my brother consulted my mother about the decision to divorce and even more put off that they apparently don't plan on telling grandmother M. any time soon......if ever.
Here is my dilemma...I feel obligated to tell grandmother M. She and I have become very close and I'm very upset that my brother chooses not to tell her. I know that the news will make her happy in some ways(none of us thought the marriage would last) and upset in others (he is not telling her and no one wants family to go through divorce). I KNOW that it is NOT MY PLACE. But I feel like it's something I have to do. I also know that if I do I risk alienating the one brother I have been the closest to all my life(at least until he got married...) My husband thinks I should, but my husband doesn't really like much of anyone in my family except my Grandmother M. and grandfather. So I don't know if his decision is skewed by that or not.
Help me mighty internet people most of which I do not know T_T
Mvmarcz wrote:The biggest problem with convincing him is that since he's been married he doesn't talk to me much either...He went from being my wonder twin(we're 6 years apart but very alike) to being someone I never hear from, but he apparently calls my brothers nearly every week.
I think he's not telling her because my SiL is convincing him not to.
I'm trying to get a hold of him to see how its going and such but he isn't calling me back, hardly ever does.
Dr Legostar wrote:Mvmarcz wrote:The biggest problem with convincing him is that since he's been married he doesn't talk to me much either...He went from being my wonder twin(we're 6 years apart but very alike) to being someone I never hear from, but he apparently calls my brothers nearly every week.
I think he's not telling her because my SiL is convincing him not to.
I'm trying to get a hold of him to see how its going and such but he isn't calling me back, hardly ever does.
It strikes me as her influence that has kept you two apart and him and your grandmother. Perhaps when this is all over he will be back to who he was and you can open up a dialog again.
Mvmarcz wrote:Dr Legostar wrote:Mvmarcz wrote:The biggest problem with convincing him is that since he's been married he doesn't talk to me much either...He went from being my wonder twin(we're 6 years apart but very alike) to being someone I never hear from, but he apparently calls my brothers nearly every week.
I think he's not telling her because my SiL is convincing him not to.
I'm trying to get a hold of him to see how its going and such but he isn't calling me back, hardly ever does.
It strikes me as her influence that has kept you two apart and him and your grandmother. Perhaps when this is all over he will be back to who he was and you can open up a dialog again.
If that's true than she's terribly two faced cause she has always called me "sis" and told me that even though they're splitting she still wants to be my sister...I've never had a sister and my husbands sisters are awful people. Man...this has been a f'ed up year I can't wait till it's over.
Mvmarcz wrote:not much of a problem, they live in Illinois and she only talks to me a tiny bit more than her does >_> Some sister right?
Eve Z. wrote:I just realized that some people get more attention than others.
And people who don't get attention and ask for it are called attention whores.
The others who don't have any problems with getting attention, are not.
Eve Z. wrote:I just realized that some people get more attention than others.
And people who don't get attention and ask for it are called attention whores.
The others who don't have any problems with getting attention, are not.
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