Lydia wrote:PortableNuke wrote: If someone starts exercising because that person is unhappy with their weight then it doesn't really matter what the perception of anyone else is. Of course there is usually some outside stimuli that sparks the improvement in the first place.
Other people's perceptions are not the same as the interactions that they provide. What I think about someone doesn't really matter, if I converse with them positively and politely, there is always a better outcome than if I gave them my base perception of them. There is a perfect example of when one's actions are influenced by the existance of interaction for the better.
What you think about a person does matter though. It colors people's behavior towards one another. It's mostly subconscience and unintentional, but there are verbal cues when people make assumptions.
That was more about the perception becoming know to the other person. That people could read my mind was an assumption on my part.
There are ways to be diplomatic about criticism. Things always work better when people use tact.