MixedMyth wrote:The other thing, I think, is that people change over time and so what might have worked at one point does not necessarily work later on down the road. Mostly because a lot of people don't seem to realize that relationships take active maintenance. Which isn't necessarily to say that it's horrible work... it shouldn't be... but it is something that not everyone seems to understand.
I blame the media - I think it gives people the idea that when the find the right person everything should just click into place and it should all be like magic, so then when they run into the first sign of trouble, they take this as an indication that they're with the wrong person and split up. The truth is that the version of love presented in movies and on television is just extremely unrealistic.
Of course, it's not as bad as Telly's hyper-pessimistic view either, where your partner will do their utmost to make your life miserable. Sure, there are rotten people out there, but if you find a good person who legitimately cares for you presumably they're also going to do their best not to drive you insane. Of course, you do want to find someone vaguely compatible with you, for example Telly is clearly extremely independant and a very dependant person would never work for her.
Relationships are probably the most complex things in life. Let no one tell you that they're easy.