Goobla whining again (Doesnt he ever STFU?)

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Goobla whining again (Doesnt he ever STFU?)

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Now see here, dear chat fellas.

Just because somebody's talking about things that make you uncomfortable does not give one the right to ban them. Especially when it just seems like you're making a fuss because their opinions annoy you, and you don't want to "talk about it" anymore.

Look, I like talking about politics... on occasion. But I can disagree horribly with someone and comparmentalize it. That's just a single facet of their person. They also probably have different experiences and information from mine which form the basis of their differing opinions. I could also be quite wrong. I know my opinion has changed drastically on occasion. Just because we are getting political and heated doesn't mean there's going to be some big personal feud. At least, not from my end. We can have our tiffs and still have our jollies too. It's just verbal rough housing to me.

If a few people are having a conversation about something "political" on IRC, then I think its best for the annoyed party to just enjoy a separate conversation in the channel.

The idea the political arguers should be tossed somewhere else, or to a private convo is sort of rude. Especially given IRC's communal facets. Anyone interested can join in, anyone not interested can leave it alone and carry on their own thread. Some may not like the topic, but other people may. If a certain party doesn't want to listen to them, then they can just easily place the folks they dont want to listen to on ignore. There is no reason to demand that arguers take it elsewhere or change the subject, and thus make a big fuss about a minor issue.

This is all to say little of the idea of Keenchat having "taboo" subjects which oughtn't be discussed. I certainly never wanted there to be restrictions on what people could discuss or say. Perhaps that's fine for other sorts of channels, which have specific focuses, but Keenchat for me was always meant to be liberating. You could talk about anything. For better or for worse. :)

At the same time, I agree for completely different reasons political debate is not really fit for IRC. Not because it stirs the ires or because no one's mind will change(though that may be); but because it's fast paced and you often step on each other's toes. Fora and other systems where things can be sensibly thought out and responded to work much better. (Though I usually still look like an opinionated ass there too. ) But if people are not to discuss certain subjects, it should be because they voluntarily agreed not to.

Now, I also have had incidences in the past, where a certain topic annoyed me and I demanded "NO POLITICS" or what have you. Usually because the opinions tossed around were annoying to me. Frankly, and perhaps others disagree, but I think I was being a jerk. I shouldn't shut down people's conversations because the subject matter annoys me. Obviously, my demeaner has changed over time. I'm somewhat more "thick-skinned" to those things as I was.

But I still do understand how one can come to demand that. There are particular topics which just tend to get to some people. One can suggest that we should talk about something else, and maybe if certain people persist despite that suggestion they're being inconsiderate or rude. Maybe the anoyee should just extract themselves and ignore the bickering. That's what I tend to do. That or join in. But I don't think it would be appropriate for me to kickban anyone over it. That's an abuse of authority.

In any case, I'm disconcerted by what happened. It feels a bit like someone stepping into your own little conversation with someone and preventing you from speaking about what you both seemed to want to speak or whine about. However I apologize if the perception was one of rudeness on my part or anyone elses. But its difficult to "demand" a ceasefire to these situations and expect it to immediately work, I think.

The dynamics are such that if one says something you disagree with, one feels the need to reply... and they feel the same need in turn and so on. Thus are born flame wars. Perhaps it would be the Ghandi-esque thing to do to ignore their statements and change the subject, and that may very well be. It's difficult to fully sort out one's stance in these issues of ridiculous internet drama. However, all this aside, I possess a general feeling of discomfort with the course of action. I'm at odds with the reasoning behind it as well. It seemed a bit overkill for the circumstances.

Especially as I feel the last lines of the "political" conversation were rather light-hearted, or less heavy-hearted, and it was becoming a more jovial discussion. I felt the argument was pretty well whithering away at the time. I may be wrong. But the kickban seems to be a product of "Who made you President of IRC", which was just a tongue in cheek reply to the demand we not mention politics. Double entendre and all that.

I'm rather aghast that it was taken seriously. In any case, what I'm trying to say is; I'm sorry for my part in the arguments for anyone who feels they were an inappropriate topic for the Keenchat. Sorry as well for being my usual smarmy, jerkish self (I honestly thought you'd be used my hyperbole!). However, I also personally think we should just let folks bicker if they want to bicker. If you don't want to hear it, use ignore. Don't go all nanny-state on them and force them onto the preverbial reserves.

So I repeat my position: kickbans are far too drastic and did not at all fit the situation.

As a final thought: I politely ask that no one tries to rekindle any dead arguments in this thread. Let us not err twice. This is of course, a suggestion. If it does turn into that, I wouldn't want anyone banned or the thread locked. Obviously.

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How many times does that make for you getting kick/banned?

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Post by Mooman »

Whenever people are being uninteresting in the chatroom, I just idle and do something else.

WHICH IS WHY I'M IDLE FOR 80% OF THE TIME!!!!

Oooooooooooooooooooooooooh, yeah, I went there.
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Mooman wrote:Whenever people are being uninteresting in the chatroom, I just idle and do something else.

WHICH IS WHY I'M IDLE FOR 80% OF THE TIME!!!!

Oooooooooooooooooooooooooh, yeah, I went there.
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goob, the ban was lifted 5 minutes after it was placed. if you want back on, no one will stop you.
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Post by Mercury Hat »

The thing with political debates is that unless you're taking part, you just want it to go away. Reading two people arguing back and forth is extremely boring because nothing is going to come of it. It's better for personal arguments (and politics often becomes personal for at least one person in the debate) to be taken out of the main chat. I think it's even ruder to take over what is supposed to be a fun chat with some stupid, petty squabbling. I know that I don't want to hear it, and neither does the majority of the chat room.

I can only idle for so long and when the argument drags ass for 20 or 30 minutes, I've about reached my limit.
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cjburgandy wrote:goob, the ban was lifted 5 minutes after it was placed. if you want back on, no one will stop you.
You'll have to forgive me because I'm not the type of person who would sit around teetering at his IRC client for five minutes, checking every couple of seconds to see if the "cool people" are gonna let me back into their little club.

I knew it wasn't going to be a lasting ban anyway. But dang it, there's a principle involved here. Maybe several. I'm trying to figure out what they are.
Mercury Hat wrote:The thing with political debates is that unless you're taking part, you just want it to go away. Reading two people arguing back and forth is extremely boring because nothing is going to come of it.
That's your personal opinion. But I for one often observe debates, and don't just "want them to go away". I think they're often quite entertaining and enlightening. I don't find two people arguing as necessarily extremely boring, and I know for a fact that things often come of it. People are not robots. They're opinions change all the time.

If I may use myself as evidence, I've flip flopped on all sorts of things, had my interest piqued in a ton of different topics which I went on to learn more about, and I've certainly become far more critical in part because of people who weren't afraid of discourse. I know a lot of others for whom this is true.

And the fact is it has nothing to do with the subject of the argument, it's got to do with the behaviour of the participants. There are any number of other topics, like webcomics for instance, which could have just as easily been as rude and unpleasant - I'm sure we're all aware that webcomics have on occasion become an unpleasant topic - and there are any number of ways to talk about politics without it becoming unpleasant. Saying absolutely a certain topic, especially one as broad as "politics", must invariably be this way or that way is gibberish and an abdication of individual responsibility.

If I acted rudely, then blame me. If anyone else did, blame them too. But let's not go around blaming amorphous blobs like "politics" and fear mongering about it.

Politics can be handled smoothly and maturely. There is nothing inherent in it where it must descend to petty squabbling which accomplishes nothing. Placing a ban on a topic and anyone who brings it up is nonsense. A demand for the arguers to be polite and decent, regardless of subject matter, would suffice and make more sense.

Now if a number of chatters want to talk about something else, that's fine, it's acknowledged. But that is not a good reason to go around kickbanning people who don't cater to their whims and abruptly change the topic of their own discussions. We should respect people's freedoms so long as they're acting decent.

(Now what constitutes decent and polite in an argument? Well, for starters, no personal attacks against one another. So calling me insane and saying I have no morality, those are inappropriate things to say during a debate. If I used any ad hominems, those are wrong as well. The chatters, under such circumstances, should point out these acts of rudeness and demand that we drop the personal attacks. If we don't and continue with our incivility, they may at that point consider more authoritative actions. That's how I'd have approached it. Note it has nothing to do with declaring a particular topic evil and demanding we completely avoid it per threat of kickban.)

If quality of life in the channel has deteriorated, it's because of individual behaviour, not the subject matter. And that is the issue at hand. That is my basic point. We should not demand that people stay away from a certain topics, the topics themselves are innocent. We should only ask people act somewhat politely when talking about them. That someone says something related to a certain taboo subject is not a sensible criterion for banning them. Only actual behaviour.

If someone tries take over the channel, bans people with glee, spams the chat with adverts... then take 'em down a peg. Those offenses are clearly rude and bannable.

However, on the other hand, I suppose if someone's going to get banned every time they bring up an unpleasant subject or make a sarcastic remark or squabbles with someone else, then hell, we're all gonna be spending a lot of time being banned. We need to keep in mind kickbans are for serious offenses, and there ought to be a damn sensible reason for using it.

What really gets me though is that I dont even recall there being any terrible argument raging at the time of the kickban. My last comments involved how I think it makes more sense to focus on and satirize those who have power then those who don't. Is that supposed to be an example of my horrible rudeness and how political things just cant be talked about sensibly? But then politics was soon declared a terrible and punishable offense. So I made a crack with the word "president" in it and got kickbanned.

I wasn't taking part of any "petty squabbling" at that time, any unpleasant conversation had already died earlier, at least from my mind I thought it had. In fact, that's the interesting thing about unpleasant conversations, they have a tendency to die quickly of their own accord. (20-30 minutes, Merc? I really dont think it took up that much time.)

So all in all maybe I'm too libertarian toward the chatroom, but with these experiences in mind, I feel we need to be more weary of it turning into a mobrule situation where we all go paranoid and start burning people at the stake for having heretical conversations. This entire situation is absolutely ridiculous and I'm spending far too much time on it. I mean, look at these freaking posts. I could spending this time writing The Great Canadian Novel, damnit.

Bloody forum addiction!
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I'm going to blindly agree!
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God, that's a freakin' novel. Condense, man.
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IRC? Cool people?

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Subhuman wrote:God, that's a freakin' novel. Condense, man.
Tolstoy wrote:I'm not the type of person who would sit around teetering at his IRC client for five minutes, checking every couple of seconds to see if the "cool people" are gonna let me back into their little club.
IRC? Cool people?
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Post by Risky »

*opens mouth*


*idles*


always remember that those who treat you this way, are the first to cry foul and the loudest, when they are in turn treated that way.

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Who... cares?
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Generally those that bother to post in the thread.

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Risky wrote:Generally those that bother to post in the thread.
ahem



I don't care...and this is the second time I posted in this thread

I just want everyone to be happy
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I think that's the definition of caring, Mary. :)

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WHERE ARE ALL THE GROWN UPS?!!!!
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Post by Sortelli »

Alright, lay off on the drama pills, those of us who weren't involved in the original matter. We have plenty of threads to mug, no reason to do this one.

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