Just because we have relationship stuff in here on occasion

[AlmightyPyro] · Post by **[AlmightyPyro]** » Thu Jul 07, 2005 7:05 pm

*is extremely pissed off right now*

You know what. For those of you who don't know what it's like though, Some times you have to give up. I know that's what sprite said, but it's true. But don't think that it's a forget forgive thing. Some time they piss you off so much you want to scream and yell and hit things, but no matter what you do, it doesn't get better, ever. You feel how much you still love them, and it makes you even angrier. To the point all you can do is sit and cry. the only thing I can do is pray. pray REALLY hard. I know there are alot of you who tell me that prayer is stupid and there isnt a god and crap, but I'll you what, it's the only thing that makes it better.

...

I'm going to stop now before I say things that make me more mad.

Rkolter · Post by **Rkolter** » Thu Jul 07, 2005 7:07 pm

It really does get better. It's just all the time in between that sucks eggs.

Warren · Post by **Warren** » Thu Jul 07, 2005 7:12 pm

rkolter wrote:It really does get better. It's just all the time in between that sucks eggs.

Spriteville, USA · Post by **Spriteville, USA** » Thu Jul 07, 2005 7:19 pm

I know it gets better. And I thank everyone on what they said. And for the record the give up and stop whining thing is good advice. I didn't intend to be whiney. Honestly I just needed to vent, and I still do (not that I'll "privilege" everyone here with it all the time) this isn't going to go away quickly though.

I lost a great friend, someone I cared deeply about for many years, who has now said, "I regret everything we shared." And not even to me in person, no chance to stammer with nothing to say, no chance to even pretend like I'm supposed to know (because I'm not, she posted it in a place I don't go but went on a whim by pure chance). I don't even get to say goodbye.

And on top of all this she is in my direct cirlce of close high school firends who quite frankly I might as well just stop bothering with because eventually it will come down to, "Who do we choose so as to avoid problems" and the hell I'm going to play that fucking game.

It's just a mess that affects more than just one thing. And of course it's not like there isn't blame to throw my way. There's plenty of fault on her part as well, but whatever, doesn't matter anymore anyway.

[AlmightyPyro] · Post by **[AlmightyPyro]** » Thu Jul 07, 2005 9:11 pm

Spriteville, USA wrote:I know it gets better. And I thank everyone on what they said. And for the record the give up and stop whining thing is good advice. I didn't intend to be whiney. Honestly I just needed to vent, and I still do (not that I'll "privilege" everyone here with it all the time) this isn't going to go away quickly though.

I lost a great friend, someone I cared deeply about for many years, who has now said, "I regret everything we shared." And not even to me in person, no chance to stammer with nothing to say, no chance to even pretend like I'm supposed to know (because I'm not, she posted it in a place I don't go but went on a whim by pure chance). I don't even get to say goodbye.

And on top of all this she is in my direct cirlce of close high school firends who quite frankly I might as well just stop bothering with because eventually it will come down to, "Who do we choose so as to avoid problems" and the hell I'm going to play that fucking game.

It's just a mess that affects more than just one thing. And of course it's not like there isn't blame to throw my way. There's plenty of fault on her part as well, but whatever, doesn't matter anymore anyway.

I understand.

AsterAzul · Post by **AsterAzul** » Thu Jul 07, 2005 9:24 pm

Good luck to all of you.

Push on and believe in yourselves. No matter how bad it gets, there's always light at the end of the tunnel. Always.

Levi-chan · Post by **Levi-chan** » Thu Jul 07, 2005 10:22 pm

I dunno - yes there's light, but the tunnel's pretty fucking long.

Aster Azul · Post by **Aster Azul** » Thu Jul 07, 2005 10:40 pm

Sometimes the tunnel is years long.

But it's not linear. There are branches, you just can't see them. Shoot in the dark a bit. Reach out. Don't get your hand bitten off by a grue, though.

Helixdq · Post by **Helixdq** » Fri Jul 08, 2005 6:59 am

To be honest i don't quite understand how one can have "best friend" troubles, or why one breaks off with one (unless they proven not to be a friend after all, so that's a win).
I guess sure sometimes you don't get to see them for a while or something, but unless they're being an ass, what is there that can go wrong

... i don't know to me the cool thing about friendship is they don't require a lot of work, you can go through one by simply, you know, existing and liking the other person.

But good luck with your problems...

Dr Legostar · Post by **Dr Legostar** » Fri Jul 08, 2005 8:45 am

Legostar wrote:usual whining about love life

Okay good, now that tha's out of the way. I'm kinda enjoying the single life at the moment, as for having my heart broken, meh, I've gotten over it many a time before and no matter how much it'll hurt the next time, I'll get over that too. All I can ask is that I learn from my mistakes, and hopefully stop attracting psycho women... or at the very least notice and avoid them once I've attracted them. The stop trying philosphies a good one sometimes, because eventually it only leads to pain and there's no need to cause unnecessary pain to yourself or anyone else.

Mvmarcz · Post by **Mvmarcz** » Fri Jul 08, 2005 9:23 am

Levi-chan wrote:*is an Asian man* woo!

But seriously, I dunno. There's a massive difficulty slope between saying that you want to give up, and actually doing it. Yes, it's easy to say, yes you can tell yourself that it's better in the end. Yes, you can say to yourself that there's really no other choice and it's something that'll happen sooner or later, but still....

Maybe it's just me. I take my relationships too seriously.

-L

:steals Levi ^_^:

It's often hard to let go...especially when we aren't able to get closeur. People have this remarkable way of weaving themselves into us and afterwards you just have to sit down and untangle them from your heart. Be it platonic or otherwise. We all need people and once we've got our select chosen that we love dearly and let consume us when they're gone every little spot they'd filled becomes a big gaping hole. Sometimes the hole gets filled by hatred and resentment. But you have to remember that that was one time in your life and now you're moving to another. We all come around at our own pace and in our own style.

It'll get better, you'll have new friends and loved ones.

Mvmarcz · Post by **Mvmarcz** » Fri Jul 08, 2005 9:27 am

helixdq wrote:To be honest i don't quite understand how one can have "best friend" troubles, or why one breaks off with one (unless they proven not to be a friend after all, so that's a win).
I guess sure sometimes you don't get to see them for a while or something, but unless they're being an ass, what is there that can go wrong ... i don't know to me the cool thing about friendship is they don't require a lot of work, you can go through one by simply, you know, existing and liking the other person.

But good luck with your problems...

I had to end a 4 year bestfriendship because I had grown beyond where she was. I was looking at my future and she was a pregnant highschool dropout who didn't want to grow up. I'd met my fiancee and she had become so intensly jealous...all the time we'd known each other she was the only one to have a boyfriend. And she always ignore us for them. But when I had finally gotten a boyfriend and was spending less time with her she started saying he was changing me and controlling me, and then when I lost my virginity to him(she wasn't even a virgin when I met her) she started to say all I cared about was fucking him and that I'd change because I got a dick in my life

yes there are times things have to end

Aster Azul · Post by **Aster Azul** » Fri Jul 08, 2005 11:29 am

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Polkadot · Post by **Polkadot** » Fri Jul 08, 2005 12:26 pm

rkolter wrote:The moral - life is a sine curve.

that is the coolest "life is a..." idea that i have ever heard! *hands rkolter major brownie points and a cookie*

DJMayhem · Post by **DJMayhem** » Fri Jul 08, 2005 1:34 pm

For me, I have given up on relationships. Honestly, I have. Don't really care, I'm focusing on my career as a filmmaker instead. I've been rejected way too many times, and I really am content to be alone. Sure, I might get lonely, but I really don't care, I've felt that way a lot. Probably the worst thing for me is my looks. I'm about the ugliest geekiest bastard you have ever seen. No one believes I'm mexican behind the glasses and the acne. I've started to try to make myself over because of it. I'm wearing nice shirts now, the mexifro I have now has gel daily, I'm eating less junk food to clean up the acne, and I'm getting contacts soon.

Oh well, story of my life.

Dr Legostar · Post by **Dr Legostar** » Fri Jul 08, 2005 2:38 pm

noxmeansxno wrote:Huzzuh for hot Asian men!

What about hot eastern european men? we need lovin too!

Noxmeansxno · Post by **Noxmeansxno** » Fri Jul 08, 2005 2:41 pm

legostargalactica wrote:
noxmeansxno wrote:Huzzuh for hot Asian men!
What about hot eastern european men? we need lovin too!

(Eastern) European men do usually have drop-dead-gorgeous accents... Gosh, I'm torn!

Dr Legostar · Post by **Dr Legostar** » Fri Jul 08, 2005 2:54 pm

noxmeansxno wrote:
legostargalactica wrote:
noxmeansxno wrote:Huzzuh for hot Asian men!
What about hot eastern european men? we need lovin too!
(Eastern) European men do usually have drop-dead-gorgeous accents... Gosh, I'm torn!

Well, sadly, I grew up in the states, i don't have the accent when i speak english, I do have it when I speak serbian though, and I can affect a russian accent... and many other accents actually.

Subhuman · Post by **Subhuman** » Fri Jul 08, 2005 4:00 pm

Speak with a Scottish accent and you've got me.

Mvmarcz · Post by **Mvmarcz** » Fri Jul 08, 2005 4:01 pm

Subhuman wrote:Speak with a Scottish accent and you've got me.

My fiancee's Scottish
He grew up here but when he's around his parents a teensy one slightly comes out ^_^!!!! SQUEE!