Online relationships

Dr Legostar · Post by **Dr Legostar** » Tue Mar 20, 2007 4:31 am

Tynan wrote:One thing I'll say for online relationships...don't knock them till you try them.

but once you've tried them, knock them all you like.

Mon Ami · Post by **Mon Ami** » Tue Mar 20, 2007 4:58 am

It is nice to hear that so many have tried and succeeded at online relationships. I have tried it twice without meeting the person (but I was young so I dun really count those) and once where we met face to face. It ended up with him telling me a lot of BS online and me finding out the hard way that he really was not who he said he was as a person. So personally, I know now that I would have to meet the person several times and understand who they are offline before I should make the 'I am now dating!' decision.

Post by **Mercury Hat** » Tue Mar 20, 2007 6:58 am

EmergencyExit wrote:As I posted last December I currently am in one with Orion, this summer we'd have known each other two years. It takes alot pf patience and willpower, personally in any relationship I've seen it best to take things slow and take time to know each other, cause infatuation is really easy to get online, it's wether or not it stays around for a while that it can start being taken seriously.

Orion is making the jump of moving here this summer and we'll move in together, hopefully all goes well.

Where's he been, anyway? Word on the street is you drugged him and keep him under lock and key.

Rkolter · Post by **Rkolter** » Tue Mar 20, 2007 7:00 am

Merc and War are the most long distance relationship I know of on the forums. They're a cute couple, or so I'm told. And have made it thus far.

Kisai and CJ are also very long distance. And a cute couple, or so I'm told. And have made it thus far.

(interestingly, none of the above four has talked in this thread! They're keeping the secret to themselves!)

Honest, it really just takes serious effort, and a mindset on the part of both people to accept that the relationship will take a lot of patience and a lot of trust. It's not for everyone, but they really can work out.

Sortelli · Post by **Sortelli** » Tue Mar 20, 2007 8:21 am

Merc owned you by twooo minuuuuutes!

Tynan · Post by **Tynan** » Tue Mar 20, 2007 8:45 am

And I've owned you for like a day now...tell Shannon I'm going to trade you back for that pudding I gave her.

McDuffies · Post by **McDuffies** » Tue Mar 20, 2007 1:08 pm

I met Zwuh on here in 2005, decided I was sekritly in love with him after a week, met him after 2 months of chatting, he flew to the UK to see me seven months later and we've now been living together in Australia for six months. Even though we first met only for three days (after 2 months chatting), I was absolutely certain when I said goodbye to him that I was going to marry him.

Aren't you already married?

Joel Fagin · Post by **Joel Fagin** » Tue Mar 20, 2007 2:57 pm

Sortelli wrote:Merc owned you by twooo minuuuuutes!

She didn't exactly say much, though.

*sets the paparazzi on her*

(If only to get some of them killed by War.)

- Joel Fagin

Laemkral · Post by **Laemkral** » Tue Mar 20, 2007 5:19 pm

mcDuffies wrote:
I met Zwuh on here in 2005, decided I was sekritly in love with him after a week, met him after 2 months of chatting, he flew to the UK to see me seven months later and we've now been living together in Australia for six months. Even though we first met only for three days (after 2 months chatting), I was absolutely certain when I said goodbye to him that I was going to marry him.
Aren't you already married?

Yes, she is. As a favor, I even used my Army connections to track down her husband and give her his contact info and she has done NOTHING with it. I've since given up hope that she'll do anything with it other than continue to live in adulterous sin with another man.

McDuffies · Post by **McDuffies** » Tue Mar 20, 2007 6:00 pm

You tracked her husband for her? In that case I'll be surprised if the guy is still alive.

Rkolter · Post by **Rkolter** » Tue Mar 20, 2007 6:03 pm

Sortelli wrote:Merc owned you by twooo minuuuuutes!

I just came back and saw that now.

Risky · Post by **Risky** » Tue Mar 20, 2007 9:48 pm

Eva and I celebrated 10 years since we met in a chatroom on March 15th. We live together now. It's been both really awesome and really hard, and we definitely weren't going out that entire time. And now... well...

Nothing I could offer would be a good tip for someone just starting out in an online relationship on how to make it work, just be honest and mature, or don't be surprised if life throws you things that make you have to mature.

Blackaby · Post by **Blackaby** » Wed Mar 21, 2007 1:04 am

Laemkral wrote:Yes, she is. As a favor, I even used my Army connections to track down her husband and give her his contact info and she has done NOTHING with it. I've since given up hope that she'll do anything with it other than continue to live in adulterous sin with another man.

I've decided to go for the abandonment line in the divorce as opposed to getting a mutual settlement. I haven't seen him for seven years so I can claim for abandonment. I'm going to include his details on the paperwork though, so it was v. helpful of you to get the information (and I'm v. grateful

) and I will be able to use it if the legal aid we get requires us to make contact with him.

Adulterous sin is fun, mind...

CorpAmis · Post by **CorpAmis** » Wed Mar 21, 2007 2:54 am

blackaby wrote: Like Jops & Amis (who are my personal standard of awesome online relationships!), both of us

Thanks Bby... :

Me and Jops have been together for almost 5 years...May 15 is the anniversary...
I dont know how wise it was when I initially fell for him considering that I was prolly 17...I didnt even know how he looks..Neither did he...I never told him cos I felt he might think I am stupid...One day he told me that he loves me and I didn't say NO

Sadly One day my mom came to know abt it Hardly 17...In love with a 22 year old guy I never saw...She thought I was crazy....I thot we were over...I was forbidden to see him...I was in high school...I thot it was over...

But I couldnt...We couldnt stay apart...Now its been a long time...I am in college...More freedom...We talk everyday...But its still a pain sometimes...
Like Tellurider said Hugging and Snuggling and all that...Its a PAIN!!!

One more year in bachelors two in masters And then we can finally get married and live together....I still dont know how my mom will react....Cheated maybe...
They dont want a Caucasian son-in-law...they want an Indian.
They want somebody who speaks our language.
I miss it too sometimes...I can never watch a Telugu movie...I am learnin Italian...He is learning Telugu...

I dunno know what will happen...But I just want us to be together...When someone wants that strongly....The distance just doesnt matter....

But I really gotta give it away for Jops...He is the reason its working...He is patient and caring and everything u would want in a partner...

Levi-chan · Post by **Levi-chan** » Wed Mar 21, 2007 5:13 pm

rkolter wrote: Honest, it really just takes serious effort, and a mindset on the part of both people to accept that the relationship will take a lot of patience and a lot of trust. It's not for everyone, but they really can work out.

Aye with this. Also, you might require a lot of stubborness, and the ability to ignore people say. I think I'm not the only one in a long-distance relationship who's started gaining evasive conversational abilities - especially after the jillionth time you have this sort of conversation:

Someone: So, going out with anyone at the moment?
Me: Yep.
Someone: Oh, cool! So where does she live?
Me: It's complicated.
Someone: Come on, tell me!
Me: Hawaii.
Someone: Oh. You're having one of those.

Because we all know physical presence is a sure sign of the validity of a relationship. Right.

Ekolter · Post by **Ekolter** » Wed Mar 21, 2007 6:35 pm

I've done this twice. First didn't work out. 2nd time is working fine.

The big thing you gotta remember is communication as everyone else says. Online as they say, there is aways the backspace key. In real life, there isn't.

Then once you finally meet in real life, that and chemistry. It takes work, serious work. Ryan moved in with me after 6 months, with a lot of hell from each side of the family. Add to that living in a 500 square feet shit hole apartment with two cat - yeah. We did that for nearly two years. We figured if we survived that, we could survive almost anything.