Lost, utterly utterly lost.

Ahaugen · Post by **Ahaugen** » Wed Jan 03, 2007 9:06 pm

there is no real good way to say this, but my father is spending his last days on earth now.

he suffered a severe stroke on New Year's Day that killed off the left hemisphere of his brain, and me and my family decided that we couldn't prolong his life with there being no chance of recovery. We had him moved into Hospice care and now, we're just waiting for the inevitable.

I never thought I'd be making these decisions at 20 ...

Black Kitty · Post by **Black Kitty** » Wed Jan 03, 2007 9:12 pm

I'm not sure what to say except to offer my sympathies. I hope you and your family take care.

McDuffies · Post by **McDuffies** » Wed Jan 03, 2007 9:36 pm

Oh my God. I can't think of a smart thing to say except to offer my condolences. It really isn't a kind of thing someone should experience in his 20ies.

Dracomax · Post by **Dracomax** » Wed Jan 03, 2007 9:50 pm

i am so sorry. i don't know what i'd do in your place.

i'll be praying for you and your family.

Ekolter · Post by **Ekolter** » Wed Jan 03, 2007 9:54 pm

What they said above and hugs tightly.

Nanda · Post by **Nanda** » Wed Jan 03, 2007 10:35 pm

I've been through this... It's terrible. I'm so sorry.

TRI · Post by **TRI** » Wed Jan 03, 2007 10:49 pm

I really don't know what to say other than that you have my deepest sympathies. There is really very little in the world as awful as what you must be going through.

LAO · Post by **LAO** » Wed Jan 03, 2007 11:00 pm

About a month ago we 'celebrated' the year anniversary of the passing of my brother. After two years of leukemia he relapsed yet again and we made the decision to move him to hospice.

It's not a fun situation.

The best advice I can give you, and the rest of your family, is to be there for each other. I will also tell you that the grief and sadness will come and go as it pleases, and all you can do is ride it out. Each time it gets a little shorter.

Laemkral · Post by **Laemkral** » Thu Jan 04, 2007 12:17 am

I'm so sorry. This is truly a tragic thing to have to undergo, especially at this age. My utmost sympathies go out to you at this time, and I only hope that when the time does come that your father passes on, you are able to find solace and comfort in your friends and family. Try to honor his memory well, for it is in the memories of others that we live on in spirit. Keep him close to your heart and he'll never truly leave you.

Dotty · Post by **Dotty** » Thu Jan 04, 2007 1:12 am

This year really isn't starting off well.

I offer you my sympathies and condolances. I've recently lost a family member myself, and if you need any advice or support, I'll be glad to lend you an Elven ear. They're bigger than Human!

Robin Pierce · Post by **Robin Pierce** » Thu Jan 04, 2007 4:27 am

I'm so sorry... there's really not much Ican say beyond that.

I have an extremely bad relationship to my father. My parents are divorced and my dad had anger issues when my sister and I were younger. I don't talk to him at all. But things like this... I'd still be upset if something like this happened.. so all I can really say is sorry.

Killbert-Robby · Post by **Killbert-Robby** » Thu Jan 04, 2007 4:40 am

I know I'm usually the wise ass who always has something to say, or has a moment of clarity and lets out long eloquent speeches of heartfelt writing... but I'm... lost for anything to say. I'm so sorry. I'm not really a religious person, but he'll be in my prayers.

CorpAmis · Post by **CorpAmis** » Thu Jan 04, 2007 4:40 am

I am so sorry...I wish I could say something but I can't...Just hang in there..And be ther for him! *HUGS*

Rkolter · Post by **Rkolter** » Thu Jan 04, 2007 4:55 am

Look at it from another perspective. If you were going to die, wouldn't you want it to know your last days were in the hands of those you loved?

You're doing all you can for him, my best wishes to you and your family.

Americangothic · Post by **Americangothic** » Thu Jan 04, 2007 5:25 am

I lost my mom when I was 17, and it was a life changing experience for me. I offer my condolances and prayers to you and your family. A parental death is never easy.

Gothia

Ahaugen · Post by **Ahaugen** » Thu Jan 04, 2007 7:40 am

I know that for those of you who went through this, it's not easy to talk about this. But I want you all to know that my family and I appreciate you condolences, your prayers, and your advice.

Grabmygoblin · Post by **Grabmygoblin** » Thu Jan 04, 2007 9:41 am

geez... sorry to hear that. I don't really know what to tell you, but you'll certianly be in my thoughts.

RemusShepherd · Post by **RemusShepherd** » Thu Jan 04, 2007 10:01 am

Oh, ahaugen I'm so sorry. Having recently gone through the death of my mother in hospice, I feel for you.

Right now you should spend as much time with your father as you want to. And just hang in there. (hugs)

Garneta · Post by **Garneta** » Thu Jan 04, 2007 10:26 am

Aw man, I can't even imaging how you're feeling right now. I'm pretty close to my dad, so I don't think I could handle that situation very well. You have my condolences.

Nervous Spy · Post by **Nervous Spy** » Thu Jan 04, 2007 12:37 pm

My heartfelt condolences. I can't really say I've ever been through anything remotely similar, but imagining how it must feel is bad enough. And if it helps you any, I think you made an absolutely right decision.